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Tuesday, January 16, 2024

Goodbye Dear Friend

Have you ever been ghosted? Have you ever been ghosted by your best friend? That is what happened to me, twice. And I want to preface that I hold no ill will towards my dear friend. I am only writing this for my own peace of mind, and to openly say goodbye!

I have been friends with a sweet lady for going on 32 years. We have been through a lot together, marriages, divorces, loosing loved ones and the trials and tribulations any other female in America could have. Her second marriage, moved her across the country from Florida to Washington state. Her mom and brother live here in Florida, so she did travel to visit & so we'd see each other while she was in town, but I guess our friendship started to dwindle over those long years apart.

I tried to reach out as much as I could, and sometimes was left on read-which is fine, I get it, we are all busy! When she first moved, she was still raising her girls & me, still raising my kids. But a couple of years ago she just disappeared off social media, wouldn't answer my texts or answer my calls. I tried for several months, maybe once a month for over a year but heard nothing from her. Since her youngest daughter was still active on social media, I knew she was still on this earth with us-so I tried not to worry.

In 2023, she finally reached out-and I was so excited, she was planning on coming to Florida and we were planning on meeting up. But she disappeared again, and I hold no hope that we will see each other again at this point, and I am truly heart broken by that. But I have to move on, get over myself-my pride and say goodbye to my dear sweet friend. I'll remember you and always think fondly of you. You are a lovely person, and I miss and love you very much!

xoxo, Lela

GoodBye Old Friend

I have mourned the end of a very special friendship recently, an ended that was pushed upon me I guess.

It has become painfully clear to me that an old friend of mine is ghosting me. I have tried calling, texting, messaging on Facebook......the only thing I have not done is email her. I guess our friendship has ended, and I didn't even know it. I took a break from FB a while back, and disabled my account. I get back on, and we're no longer friends on FB. I reached out during the Pandemic, and let's face it she wasn't always great at getting back to me. But now I think she has my calls blocked and my messages flagged not to bother her. I feel almost like a stalker, I have even thought about reaching out to her adult child to see what's going on. I mean, I would assume I would know if she passed away!?

I think it really hurts me more then I'd like to admit that she is doing this to me. Maybe I am not a good friend to her, and I didn't realize and she finally got rid of me. I just kind of wish I knew what I did.

In the end, I did email her asking her if she was okay. And I guess I'll just let it go, though it does hurt. I can't blame myself forever. But I am a classic over thinker, and a classic self blamer. I didn't do anything though, did I reach out a ton? no, but it was much more then her never reaching out. So I did all I could.

Life moves on, with our without a dear friend - and so I am moving on.

Good bye old friend-I love and miss you!

Best Friends Trip - 2014

I am not sure if I ever did even share these, they are not great photos, it was a dreary day - but we were together and we had fun just hanging out. I wish I could go back to 2014 and spend this day with you all over again! Love and miss you my friend! We need to plan another trip! Ya hear?

Come'on Now Friends.....

Have you ever noticed that people, your friends in particular, don't really want to nor do they have time to really listen to what you have to say? They just really don't care, not really! They really only talk to you so they can brag about whatever amazing thing has happened to them lately or bitch about something shitty. All of which and everything in the middle I am game for. I like to listen to my friends, provide some feedback & even, dare I say-talk about myself.

I have noticed that a lot of my friendships are still so very one sided. I get my ear talked off, or paragraphs upon paragraphs via messenger or text about their issues, or accomplishments yet once they ask me how I am doing, and I respond they have little so say.

If I return the favor, then I get asked "what's wrong with you?"....

Buggers, I just am at a loss really. But in the end, I have to do what is good for me and if something bothers me enough and goes on to long, I'll eventually just give up and move on. If you're wondering if I call the friend on the carpet, the answer is no-and I don't want to have to have that type of conversation with someone because most of the time I have found it's just that persons personality & I don't want to change anyone-they just may not be for me. Not only that, but I don't like to argue with someone about such things either.

I know this is something I've bitched about before-but I guess I never learn.

Thanksgiving is COMING!

It's hard to believe that is already November 16th. Just a few short weeks and it will be Thanksgiving, and we'll all be gathered around eating homemade fixings that our beautiful family members have made. Our week is filled up with different family gatherings.

When I was younger, I used to find all the traveling and pushing and pulling back and forth a bit of a burden - but as I have gotten older, I realize what a gift it is to have so many people wanting to spent time with me and my children. It's still hard to accommodate everyone, but now I feel differently about the effort made to make it all happen.

We have Thursday-Sunday packed full of family, friends & FOOD!!!! Some of my favorite things! Now I just have to figure out what to make for all these gatherings ;)

Hashtag Truth

Well, it's the truth......lol! And it's not just true for myself personally, but it's universally true. It's funny, because I literally say this every time I have a melt down moment at home over something not going my way, or going wrong - there has been a sock on the floor for a week now-it's right by the sofa where the kids folded laundry-the sock got left behind.....and I pointed it out to both boys & to Billy (it's his sock), and yet it still is on the floor. I refuse to pick it up. But eventually, I will have a melt down about the sock being on the floor & then will have to say that I am sorry for acting the fool.

Raise your hand if you've never acted the fool? Didn't think so! Life is hairy & so are we-hahahaha.....

I need a fill up of coffee please.....

Happy Tuesday. Today is going to be a good day, today is going to be a good day...today is going to be a good day? Hell, I sure hope so. I am so freaking sleepy this morning, it's only 6:30am so it's early yeah I get it, but I can't seem to wake up!!! I may have to resort to having a cup of coffee...which don't get me wrong I do this every morning - but this morning I feel like I NEED it just to survive! What the hell man, what the HELL!?!?!

I had a relaxing weekend, as I have already stated in a previous post. I did stay up until after 10pm last night, but I still didn't do much that should have made me so sleepy-I went straight to bed......strait to sleep....woke up when my alarm went off...didn't feel like restless sleep....not totally anyway. I did dream of an old friend...one that I have released from my life. Odd to dream about her-and it wasn't a sweet dream either-she was being an asshole in my dream & even threw a sock at me and hit me in the face with it. LOL! I ignored her while I put on some weird blow up outfit for water skiing...apparently I did that in my dream. Weird Weird Weird...maybe that's why I am tired hahaha....

Well-here's to a good day ya'll!

xoxo, Lela

It's calling my NAME!!!

One thing is true today, I wish I was on the beach some place - enjoying some wonderful weather & a cocktail! I would love this if I was alone & I would love this if I had company with me.

Have you ever vacationed alone? When you did were you married or single, if you did? Is it weird to want to do this, while you're married w/children?

It probably doesn't help that I am stuck inside a ice cold building for 10+ hours four days a week.

Gotta Catch em All!

Does anyone else think it's weird when you run across 40+ year old people playing Pokemon!? Especially when they used to make fun of people who played the real Pokemon, aka cards..? Hell maybe odd isn't the right word-Ironic maybe lol! I just remember Gavin getting a lot of shit for playing Pokemon or Magic while he was a pre-teen & up into his teen years...hell, I think even Teresa got shit about it...Weston & Xander both play Pokemon too-cards that is.

Anyway, here is a much more adult version I guess I could maybe get on board with, lol! Enjoy & Happy FRIDAY!

xoxo, Lela

St. Augustine Girls Weekend

This is one of my favorite places to go. These pictures where taken when my very good friend, aka my bestie and I took a trip to St. Augustine. I think it's time for another get away!!!!