I have been seeing a lot of people posting things on facebook (family and friends) about how they've been disappointed by people in their lives recently. Some decided to cut their losses and terminate the relationship others still linger on, hoping for a different outcome next time, hoping that the other person will eventually see the "light" and stop hurting them.
What is the right thing to do? Do you just give up on the people you love the most in the world, do you just cut that best friend out of your life that you've know since you were five years old? Do you separate from your husband of 10 years, who you have children with?
Everyone has an opinion on this. Everyone's opinion is based on so many different factors, such as how they were brought up (what their morals are), their own life experiences (and what that taught them), and their level of trust and ability to withstand pain. Some people can take this type of disappointment from individuals they love their entire lives - some can't even take it the first time they are let down. And the rest of us are sort of in the middle some place.
What is is the right thing to do? No one can really tell you can they? They can simply tell you what they'd do, and they base it on the people they know & love. But they also base it on a situation that they themselves are not even experiencing.
I cannot tell you the hundreds of people that told me they could never put up with or deal with what I've been through with Billy and Olivia. Each time those words are spoken to me, I cringe just a little bit more. I rarely say anything back to the person, mostly I just smile because I know they are not being 100% honest with themselves or to me and I also know they mean it from a good place, mostly.
The truth is, we don't know what we'd do. Our reaction is different every time, due to how we are feeling or what else we are going through in life.
All we can really truly do is just try to be a better version of ourselves every single day. Try to be smarter, faster, leaner, better in every way. We can try not to be the one going out making poor decisions that effect and hurt the ones we love the most in this world.
When I say life is short, I don't mean it to say "life is short you need to forgive..." or "life is to short to be with a son-of-a-bitch like that". I just mean it is short, it is precious. Find the people that make you happy, find someone that doesn't disappoint you - build on that relationship. Re-evaluate your relationships with friends and family that lack the same morals as you do & maybe put them on the back burner for a while - while you nurture yourself and your healthy relationships.
Who knows what I am saying, I am just another asshole with an opinion.
xoxo, Lela
